Self-esteem is the value you set on yourself. Thus, if you tend to perceive yourself rather negatively, that reflects low self-esteem. On the other hand, if you see yourself positively, it reflects good self-esteem. This is the short version, but there are several factors that can affect your perception of yourself.

Good self-esteem means accepting yourself the way you are. It’s not always easy! To do it, you need to be aware of your strengths, the areas you need to work on, and your limits. We work to get to know ourselves, we develop a realistic view of ourselves, and we learn to love ourselves the way we are.

It can vary

Any given person’s self-esteem can vary from one activity to another and one time to another. For example, it might be different at school, at work, or in love. It can also change in different situations. It may depend on your age and the specific domain (social, artistic, educational, physical, etc.) and the importance you assign to each domain.

It can be developed

Self-esteem develops over time. Small everyday actions, thoughts, and positive attitudes gradually build our self-esteem. All the little actions we take to develop our self-esteem are like the bricks in a house that we’re slowly building. The more solid the foundations of the house are, the better we feel and the more confidence we have to move forward.

It’s a learning process

Self-esteem and confidence are strengths you can work on and develop. It’s a learning process. We start building them when we’re very young and they keep changing lifelong. Adults also have to keep working on and caring for their self-esteem!

What does low self-esteem do?

Low self-esteem can lead you to believe that you aren’t able to meet challenges, or that you’re not good enough for people to love you or be interested in you. You may tend to be defeatist 🤷, magnify your failures, minimize your successes, or give up on projects. You might also feel more vulnerable and more hurt by outside criticism and have a tendency to devalue yourself and assign too much importance to that little negative voice in your head.

Self-esteem: a challenge during adolescence

Why? Because that’s when you’re really building your self-esteem, you’re looking for your identity, you’re distancing yourself from your parents, your friends are playing a more important role, you’re taking on new roles 👍 (lover 😍, worker, intern who has to make important choices about your future, your profession, etc.), and because you’re dealing with numerous physical changes.