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👉 It probably seems unimaginable to you now, but with time, the pain will become less acute

👉 Talking about it will help you let go of your emotions.

👉 Take care of yourself, don't feel guilty and avoid using.

Here is some advice to help you do things that will make you feel better during your grief.

Give yourself time

The wound can take time to heal. Respect your own pace and accept that you’re not going to feel better right away. With time, the pain will ease. You won’t forget the person you’ve lost, but the loss won’t hurt as much.

Keep your good memories

Take the time to remember the good times you had together.

Don’t isolate yourself

Surround yourself with friends and people you like who understand what you’re feeling.

Talk about it

Express what you’re feeling to someone you trust, such as a friend, a parent, another adult you like, or a professional, or contact Tel-jeunes. You’ll see that you’re not alone in feeling all these emotions.

Do something to take your mind off things

Even if you still don’t feel like it, continue to see your friends and do activities that have always made you feel good.

Don’t blame yourself

That won’t bring the person back – it will only make your grief or anger worse.

Take care of yourself

Other people around you may also be grieving. You can support each other mutually, but you don’t have to take all their grief on your shoulders. You have your own grief to work through.

Avoid alcohol or drugs

In these tough times, some people tend to consume alcohol or drugs in the hope of numbing their pain. This behaviour never helps to overcome grief. On the contrary, it can make the pain worse and cause other problems (click here to find out more about drug and alcohol dependence).

Try to sleep and eat well

Keeping a healthy lifestyle gives you enough energy to live through this difficult period.

You’ll see: with time, the pain will ease, even if you can’t see an end to it now.