Being ready doesn’t mean being ready for everything! You don’t have to do everything your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to do. No sexual activity is obligatory. Stroking, masturbation, kissing, oral sex, intercourse… intimacy can be shared in so many different ways. You can say no to what you don’t want to do and talk to your partner about what you do want to try.

And remember that you’re allowed to want something… and then change your mind right before or even during! You have the right to refuse or stop any kind of sexual activity at any time if you’re not comfortable any more, it hurts, or you just don’t like it. No reason is wrong or not good enough. And if ever your partner asks you to slow down and move at his/her pace, it’s important for you to show respect too. This is a game for two!

Do I have to give a guy a blow job if I don’t enjoy it?

Fellatio involves caressing the penis with your mouth, tongue, and lips. As with all sexual practices, it’s your choice whether or not to do it. You may or may not like it; the important thing is to respect yourself and go at your own speed. If you don’t enjoy fellatio or you don’t feel like doing it, don’t do it, and say so to your partner. Sex should remain enjoyable and pleasurable for both of you. Maybe one day, you’ll feel like doing it, and maybe not. Even if your partner likes this practice, you’ll need to find other ones so you can enjoy sexual pleasure… together.

Should I like anal sex?

Anal sex (or anal penetration or sodomy) is not a quite common sexual practice. There are some other related practices, such as anilingus (oral stimulation of the anus). The anus is considered to be an erogenous zone, since it has lots of nerve endings. That’s why some people appreciate stimulation of this region. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, one thing is certain: you might find anal sex uninteresting, unarousing, or disgusting. Agreeing to do it is your choice, and your partner needs to respect that!

I’d like to try a threesome. Is that a good idea?

You might feel comfortable with a threesome, but the other two people involved have to be comfortable too! Before doing anything, you need to set some ground rules so you know what you’re committing to. For example, will it happen just once? Is a couple involved? If you’re part of a couple, have you clearly defined your relationship? You need to feel confident and ask the right questions. After a threesome, you might feel jealousy, remorse, or guilt. Is it really an experience you want to have? Or is it more like a fantasy you want to keep inside your head? That’s something to think about.