Understanding your teen's labels and identity
Your teenager is going through a period of questioning and exploring his or her identity. The subject of sexual orientation and gender identity labels can sometimes seem complex. This guide will help you better understand what your teenager is going through and how best to support him or her.
To remember
👉 Accept and respect your teen's choice, whether or not they use a label to define their identity.
👉 Using a label can help your teen feel good about themselves and their identity, especially when it comes to a sense of belonging to a community.
👉 However, let your teen explore at his or her own pace. Don't force things, just listen without judging.
What is a label?
Labels like “gay”, “lesbian”, “bi”, “trans” or “non-binary” are words that some people use to define their sexual orientation or gender identity. These are ways of putting words to feelings and finding one's place in the world.
Your teenager can tell you what his or her label means to him or her, and it's a good idea to take an interest by asking questions. But it's also important to find out for yourself, by consulting the resources available online (see below). This way, your teenager won't feel it's his or her responsibility to educate you on the subject.
The importance of acceptance
If your teen chooses to use a label, it's essential to listen without judgment and respect their choice. Remember that their identity may evolve over time, and the label your teen uses today may be just one stage in their self-discovery.
Don't force labelling
It's crucial not to force your teenager to define herself with a label if she doesn't feel the need. Some young people prefer not to use labels, and that's perfectly normal. What matters most is that your teen feels free to be himself, without pressure or judgment.
Unconditional support
The most important thing is to provide your teenager with a caring family environment and to listen to him or her. Show them that you love and support them, whatever their identity. Your love and acceptance are essential if he or she is to blossom fully.
